Why Letting Go Feels Hard (Even When You’ve Forgiven)

Are You Still Hurting Because You Haven’t Forgiven…Or Because You Haven’t Been Allowed to Grieve?

When life knocks the wind out of you…
When the grief is too quiet to name, but too loud to ignore…
When you’re doing all the right things — praying, working, letting go — and it still feels like something inside you hasn’t healed…

Sometimes, the only thing left to do is open your Bible and ask God to speak.

And that’s what I did.
Heavy-hearted.
Worn down.
Desperate for a word.

I opened to Matthew 18:21–35, and my stomach dropped.

Am I being punished?
Have I not forgiven?
Did I miss something?

🕊️ A Parable That Cuts Deep — But Might Set You Free

Matthew 18 tells the story of a servant who was forgiven a massive debt — and yet, refused to show the same mercy to someone else.

It’s easy to read this and feel guilt rise in your throat.

But pause.

This parable isn’t here to shame you.
It’s a mirror. A holy interruption.
A chance to look at your heart through the eyes of grace.

Let this truth settle deep into your spirit:

Forgiveness is not the same as numbness.
Not the same as silence.
Not the same as skipping over the ache just to “move on.”

💔 What You May Be Carrying Isn’t Bitterness — It’s Buried Grief

If you’ve ever kept pushing forward after betrayal…
If you’ve smiled through tears you didn’t have time to cry…
If you’ve pivoted, prayed, and kept it moving — but still feel a weight in your chest…

Then hear this clearly:

You’re not bitter.
You’re not backsliding.
You’re not resisting God.

You’re grieving something you never got to grieve.
And that grief is sacred.

It doesn’t mean you haven’t forgiven.
It means your soul is ready to rest — and finally be held.

❗Let’s Rewire This Together: Forgiveness vs. Grief

Your negative thoughts — the ones that whisper shame and confusion — love to blur the line between grief and unforgiveness.

If they can convince you that your pain is disobedience,
they can keep you stuck in guilt instead of walking in healing.

But clarity brings power.
And power invites peace.

Maybe you’ve already forgiven.
Maybe you stopped telling the story.
Maybe you chose peace instead of retaliation.

But your body still remembers.
Your nervous system still holds it.
And your tears are still waiting for permission.

So instead of asking, “Why can’t I let go?”
Maybe the real question is…

“Where haven’t I let myself be held?”

🔁 The Whisper That Changes Everything

Your negative thoughts say:

“You haven’t forgiven. That’s why you’re still hurting.”

But the Spirit says:

“No, daughter.
You’re safe now.
You don’t have to keep performing strength.
Let Me show you what real healing looks like.
It begins with the tears you were never allowed to cry.”

Let that sink in.
Let your shoulders drop.
Let your breath slow.
Let yourself feel what you were always meant to heal.

💡So… How Do You Forgive Properly?

You don’t push harder.
You don’t fake peace.
You begin by giving yourself space — and surrendering the pressure to “be over it.”

Say this with me. Or write it. Or breathe it.
Let your nervous system hear it again and again:

“God, I choose to release the pain of what they did to me.
I choose to feel it fully — the sadness, the rage, the ache.
I welcome the tears, the anger, the silence.
I give all of it back to You.
The debt doesn’t belong to me anymore.”

“I give myself permission to grieve what was lost.
What was broken.
What I needed and never received.
What I gave and never got back.”

“Let this grief become sacred ground.
Let it cleanse me.
Let it soften what’s been hardened.
Let it open the door to peace.”

“Teach me how to love again — without reopening the door.
How to release — without reopening the wound.
How to bless — without being bound.”

🌱 A Forgiveness + Grief Practice That Works With Your Brain

Your subconscious mind doesn’t respond to pressure.
It responds to rhythm, safety, and emotional sequencing.

Here’s a gentle path forward:

1. Name the Person

“God, I bring ______ before You.”

2. Name the Pain

“They took ____. I never got to ____. It broke me when ____.”

3. Name the Choice

“I release them from my judgment. I cancel the debt. I give You this pain.”

4. Name the Loss

“Let me grieve it. Let me cry. Let me fall apart in Your arms.”

5. Name the Future

“I choose to walk free. I choose wholeness. I choose joy.”

And as you do this, let the frequency shift.
Let yourself climb — moment by moment — through the emotional scale:

From despair… to sadness.
From sadness… to anger.
From anger… to willingness.
From willingness… to hope.
From hope… to peace.
From peace… to joy.

Grief isn’t regression.
It’s resurrection.

🔥 Your Grief Is Not Proof of Failure — It’s Proof You’re Ready

You don’t need another fake breakthrough.
You don’t need another moment of pretending you’re fine.
You need space to fully feel, fully grieve, fully release.

Because healing doesn’t happen through pressure.
It happens through permission.

“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” — Matthew 5:4

💎 This Is Exactly Why I Created The Treasure in You™

If something inside you whispered “yes” while you were reading this…
If your chest got heavier — or lighter — or something finally clicked…

Then The Treasure in You™ is your invitation.

It’s not a course.
It’s a safe haven for healing — a full restoration of your mind, body, and spirit.

Inside, you’ll:

✅ Release trauma without reliving it
✅ Forgive in a way that frees your nervous system
✅ Manifest from alignment — not from survival
✅ Grieve fully, safely, and in God’s presence
✅ Rewire the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck in pain
✅ Return to joy, peace, clarity, and power

Because the truth is:

You are not too broken.
You are not too late.
You are not too far gone.

You are right on time — and deeply, irrevocably loved.

🔗 Click here to step into The Treasure in You™ now.

You can exhale now.
You’re safe here.
Let’s heal for real.