How Charlie Kirk Restored My Faith in Men

For a long time, I thought good men didn’t exist.

I don’t mean the “nice guy” kind of men. I mean the strong, steady, Christ-anchored, family-centered men who love their wives, raise their children with integrity, and walk in their God-given identity. The kind of men who make you feel safe, seen, and supported — not smaller, not silenced, not burdened.

I thought they were a myth.

Because when I went looking for that kind of man, I didn’t find him. I found counterfeit versions. I found men who preached about God but didn’t live it. I found men who thrived on control, manipulation, or charm that turned out to be hell in disguise. And every time I thought maybe this was the one — I ended up crushed, disappointed, betrayed.

After enough heartbreak, enough trauma, enough nights of crying myself to sleep because of the choices I made while desperately seeking love, I told myself: Men like that don’t exist.

And if they did, surely they weren’t for me.

I carried that hopelessness like a weight. It wasn’t just about me, either. I’m raising boys. And I felt the crushing responsibility of knowing — what if this is the only example they ever get? What if they grow up only seeing distorted manhood? What if they learn to imitate the very cycles I fought to break?

That thought haunted me more than the loneliness.

But then, something shifted.

This year, and especially this past week, I’ve watched the impact of Charlie Kirk’s life, his testimony, and this revival stirring across America. And for the first time in years, something broke open in me:

Hope.

Through him — and through the countless men his message has influenced — I saw living proof that good men do exist. Millions of them. Men who are walking in their true masculine calling, men who are protecting, providing, honoring their homes, standing firm in their faith, raising their families, and becoming leaders this world desperately needs.

Seeing that has restored something in me I thought was gone.

My perception of men has been restored.

And with it, my belief that God hasn’t forgotten me. That He hasn’t forgotten my children. That it’s not too late for us to have the family structure we’ve longed for — wholeness, partnership, covering.

I don’t have to seek it anymore out of fear, emptiness, or survival mode. I don’t have to chase or compromise. I don’t have to convince myself to tolerate less because “this is just what’s out there.”

No.

Now I know: when I stay aligned with God, when I keep walking in trust, the right man at the right time will come. And until then, my boys already have me — a mother determined to raise them as men of honor. They already have this revival shaping them. And whatever piece they’re missing? God will send it.

If you’ve lost faith in men, I want to tell you something: Don’t let the counterfeits define reality. Don’t let abuse, betrayal, or disappointment convince you that good men don’t exist. They do. And as revival spreads, more are rising up every single day.

You don’t have to settle. You don’t have to keep carrying that hopelessness. Shift your gaze. Start looking for what God is raising, not what the enemy has distorted.

Because good men exist. Godly men exist. And your story is not over yet.

How I Stepped Into This Shift

I didn’t arrive at this revelation overnight. It came because I’ve been walking through the framework I now teach inside The Treasure in You™. That framework led me step by step — from survival mode, shame, and unworthiness — into alignment with my true spiritual nature.

It’s alignment that creates the shift. When I finally understood that, the heaviness broke. I stopped striving, stopped chasing, stopped settling. And in that space of alignment, the revelation came: I am worthy of love. I am worthy of provision. I am worthy of partnership that reflects God’s design.

If you are tired of tolerating what breaks you, if you’re ready to release the lies and step into your God-given identity, The Treasure in You™ will walk you into that shift. It’s the same process that restored my faith in myself, in God’s plan, and yes — even in men.

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